Assignment
An Interruption Intervention
Completion requirements
Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions.
Proverbs 18:2
The skill of not interrupting during conversations is crucial for effective communication, especially when applying the Speaker-Listener method. Below are some practical exercises that can help you improve your listening skills and resist the urge to interrupt. Choose 2 of the exercises below to employ during the next couple of days (or your next few personal engagements). Afterwards, share your experience with someone who knows you well. What did you choose? How did it go? What will you do now?
Option 1: The Silent Partner
Objective:
To practice active listening without interrupting for a designated period.
How to Execute:
Set a timer for 3-5 minutes.
One person speaks on a topic of their choice.
The other person listens without saying a word.
Reflect on the experience afterward. Was it challenging? What did you learn?
Option 2: Summarizing Before Speaking
Objective:
To ensure that you've fully heard and understood the speaker before contributing your own thoughts.
How to Execute:
In a conversation, every time you feel the urge to interrupt, make a mental or physical note instead.
When the speaker is finished, summarize what they've said before sharing your thoughts.
Option 3: Verbal Acknowledgements
Objective:
To express understanding without breaking the flow of the person speaking.
How to Execute:
Use short verbal cues like "I see," "Uh-huh," "Go on," to show that you are listening.
Reflect afterward: Were these cues helpful? Did they come across as interruptions or as signs of active listening?
Option 4: Finger Tap Method
Objective:
To physically restrain yourself from interrupting.
How to Execute:
Each time you feel an urge to interrupt, tap your finger against your leg or some other surface.
This physical act can serve as a reminder to hold your thoughts until it’s your turn to speak.
Option 5: The "5 Seconds Rule"
Objective:
To ensure that the speaker has fully completed their thought before you begin yours.
How to Execute:
Wait for 5 seconds after the person has stopped speaking to make sure they've completed their thought.
Then proceed to share your viewpoint or ask a question.
Option 6: Video Reflection
Objective:
To visually assess your listening and interrupting habits.
How to Execute:
Record a conversation you have with a friend or family member.
Watch the video and note instances where you interrupt. Reflect on why you felt compelled to interrupt and think of ways you can improve.